One Lie Many Well-Meaning Christians Tell You About Love

I’ve said it before. You might have too.

But it’s not true.

I understand why we say it. Those who do are all well-meaning. It’s hyperbole to make a point.


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Stop me if you’ve heard this one:

“Love is not an emotion.” (Sometimes it’s appended with, “It’s a choice.”)

I can say with absolute confidence that anyone who has truly loved God or another person has emoted.

We try to box up love, classify it, and package it.

Yes love is a choice. But not an emotion? I don’t want that kind of love.

One of the most powerful passages in the Bible is when Jesus looks out over Jerusalem and cries (Luke 19:41). He looks down at the city of David, sees all of the impending hurt and just begins to sob. Why?

Out of love.

Love is an emotion; that’s what makes it so hard.

Love is also a choice. Anyone married more than a minute knows you must choose daily to love because there are days when you don’t “feel” like it. But then there are the other days: days when you hug your wife tight and never want to stop.



photo by Steve Halama


Love is so complex that it cannot be explained. It can't be classified or put in a wrapper and sold in a vending machine.

Love without commitment isn't love at all. But love without emotion isn't much of anything either.



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